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How We Interpret a Situation Decides How We Experience It

April 30, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“How we interpret a situation decides how we experience it. Create new experiences by thinking differently about what you encounter.” – Jerry Corsten

The transformative power of perception and the freedom it offers us in shaping our reality.

The above quote reveals a profound truth: external events are neutral until we assign them meaning. It’s not the situation itself—be it a challenge, a loss, or a triumph—that defines our experience, but the lens through which we view it. A setback can be a crushing defeat or a sacred opportunity for growth, depending on our interpretation. This places immense power in our hands; we are not passive victims of circumstance but active co-creators of our inner world. By choosing to think differently—shifting from fear to curiosity, from judgment to compassion, or from resistance to acceptance—we rewrite the story of what’s happening and, in turn, how it feels to live through it.

Spiritually, this aligns with the idea that our thoughts are a bridge between the material and the divine, a tool for aligning with higher wisdom. When we consciously reframe what we encounter, we open ourselves to new possibilities—fresh experiences born from a mind willing to see beyond the surface. It’s important to take ownership of our perception, recognizing that by changing our thoughts, we don’t just alter our emotions—we craft entirely new realities, turning life’s raw materials into moments of meaning, healing, and expansion.

That Supernatural Fatigue You’re Carrying around with You Right Now

April 28, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

That supernatural fatigue you’re carrying around with you right now is the dead weight of the past you insist on dragging into the future. – Emma Magenta

Liberation through presence.

This is a fierce wake-up call, my friends! That heaviness you feel, that mysterious exhaustion that seems to transcend the physical—it’s not some cosmic burden bestowed upon you. No, it’s the baggage of yesterday, the old stories, regrets, and wounds you clutch so tightly, refusing to let them dissolve into the nothingness from whence they came. You drag them like a corpse into each new moment, and then wonder why your spirit feels crushed, why life lacks its juice, its vibrancy. The past is dead—it exists only in your mind, a ghost you keep alive with your insistence on carrying it forward. And the future? It’s unborn, a dream yet to unfold. Yet here you are, exhausting yourself by tethering the two together, missing the only truth: this moment, alive, pulsating, free.

Drop it! This supernatural fatigue is your own creation, a signal from your being that you’re living unnaturally, out of tune with existence. The past taught you what it could—now let it rest. Stop projecting it onto the future, stop poisoning the freshness of what’s to come. Be here, now—naked, unburdened, like a child seeing the world anew. Life is a mirror reflecting your self-imposed prison: the weight of the past you haul into tomorrow. Release it, and watch the fatigue vanish, replaced by the effortless dance of a life lived fully in the present. That’s the real miracle—freedom is already yours, if you dare to stop carrying what’s gone.

How Do You Know Someone Is for You?

April 27, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“How do you know if someone is for you? They bring peace you haven’t found anywhere else. They support your effort. They water your growth.” – Malanda Jean-Claude

Recognizing authentic connection in a chaotic world.

Existence is wild, chaotic, a mad dance of energies! And in this whirlwind, people come and go—some clash, some cling, some drain. But how do you know when someone is truly for you? It’s simple, yet profound: they feel like a river of peace flowing into your being, a stillness you’ve chased in a thousand places—temples, lovers, lonely nights—and never quite grasped. This peace isn’t dull; it’s alive, vibrant, a quiet that hums with presence. They don’t demand you shrink or perform; they just are with you, and in that being, you find a rare ease, a home within the storm.

And more—they don’t sit idly by, watching you stumble. They support your effort, your fire, your crazy dreams to become more than you are today. They don’t compete or control; they cheer your steps, even the shaky ones. They water your growth—not by drowning you with their ideas, but by nourishing the seed that’s already you, trusting it to bloom in its own wild, unique way. This is love, not as possession, but as a mirror reflecting your own potential, a breeze lifting your wings.

Someone is for you when they bring a peace that’s yours alone, stand beside your striving, and pour life into your unfolding. They’re not here to fix or fight you—they’re here to dance with your soul as it grows free. That’s the sign, the real juice of connection—taste it, and you’ll know.

Remember: You Can Always Choose to Make Your Future Bigger

April 26, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

Remember: you can ALWAYS choose to make your future bigger than your past. – Tom Bilyeu

Agency, possibility, and the limitless potential we hold to shape our lives.

No matter where you’ve been—whether your past is marked by triumphs, failures, pain, or smallness—you are not chained to it. The word “always” is key: it declares that at any moment, in any circumstance, you possess the power to pivot, to decide that what lies ahead will outshine what’s behind. Your past might have shaped you, taught you, even scarred you, but it doesn’t own you—it’s merely a stepping stone. Making your future “bigger” isn’t just about external success; it’s about expanding your vision, your courage, your capacity for joy, impact, and meaning beyond anything you’ve known before.

From a self-improvement perspective, this is about taking radical responsibility. You can’t rewrite history, but you can choose how you respond to it—whether you let it define your limits or fuel your ambition. It’s a call to action: dream larger, act bolder, and refuse to let yesterday’s story dictate tomorrow’s scope. You can ALWAYS see every day as a fresh chance to outgrow your past, to intentionally craft a future that’s richer, fuller, and more expansive—because the power to choose that trajectory is always, unflinchingly, yours.

If You Waste a Year, You Really Lose Two

April 25, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“If you waste a year, you really lose two. One for what you should have done then, and one to what you’re missing now that you’re doing it.” – Ed Latimore

The cost of procrastination and the value of living intentionally.

The hidden toll of delay: when you let a year slip by—squandering time on indecision, distraction, or fear—you don’t just lose those twelve months. You lose the momentum, growth, or achievements that could have taken root then, setting you further ahead today. That’s the first year gone. But there’s a second, subtler loss: by playing catch-up now, scrambling to do what you postponed, you’re missing out on the opportunities, joys, or progress available in the present moment. It’s a double hit—past potential unrealized and current potential sidelined—all because you didn’t act when the timing was ripe.

This is a wake-up call to seize the day, to stop postponing what matters most. Time doesn’t just vanish; it carries a ripple effect. Wasting it creates a debt that compounds, pulling you out of alignment with both your past aspirations and your present possibilities. It’s important to recognize that procrastination doesn’t just steal the moment you waste—it robs you twice, once in what could have been and again in what you’re sacrificing now. Act today, and you preserve not just one year, but two—and all the richness they could hold.

Sometimes the Most Effective Way to Dissolve Something

April 24, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Sometimes the most effective way to dissolve something is to accept it.” – Elizabeth Hallowel

Now, I know what some of you might be thinking. “Accept it? If it’s bothering me, shouldn’t I fight it? Shouldn’t I try to change it?” That’s a natural reaction! Our brains are wired to fix problems, to push away things that make us uncomfortable. But sometimes, that very resistance, that constant pushing, is what keeps the problem alive and kicking.

Think of it like this: imagine you have a tangled knot in a piece of string. Your first instinct might be to yank at it, to try and force it apart. But what often happens? The knot just gets tighter, right? You might even make it worse.

Now, what if you tried something different? What if you took a deep breath and just looked at the knot? You might gently trace its loops with your fingers, understanding how it’s formed. You might notice where the tension is greatest. In that moment of acceptance, of not fighting against it, you might actually find a loose thread that you can gently pull to start untangling the whole mess.

That’s kind of how it works with the stuff that bothers us in life – our worries, our frustrations, our painful memories, even difficult situations. When we constantly fight against them, when we tell ourselves “this shouldn’t be happening,” or “I can’t stand this feeling,” we actually give them more energy. We keep them front and center in our minds. It’s like constantly poking a bruise – it’s never going to heal if you keep irritating it.

Acceptance isn’t about liking something. It doesn’t mean you have to throw a party for your problems or pretend everything is sunshine and rainbows when it’s not. Acceptance is simply acknowledging what is. It’s recognizing the reality of the situation or the feeling without judgment or resistance.

Think about a rainy day. You could spend the whole day complaining about the rain, wishing it would go away, and feeling miserable. Or, you could accept that it’s raining. You might grab an umbrella, put on some cozy clothes, and maybe even enjoy the sound of the rain on the roof. The rain is still there, but your experience of it is different because you’re not fighting against it.

So, how does acceptance actually dissolve things?

It reduces the emotional charge: When you stop resisting a feeling or a situation, you take away its power to upset you. The constant internal battle stops, and you create space for calmer emotions.
It allows for clearer thinking: When you’re not caught up in the struggle against something, your mind becomes clearer. You can see the situation more objectively and potentially find solutions you couldn’t see before.
It frees up energy: All that energy you were using to fight and resist can now be used for something more constructive, like finding ways to cope or make positive changes where you can.
It can lead to actual change: Paradoxically, sometimes accepting a situation fully is the first step towards actually changing it. When you’re not in denial or constantly pushing back, you can see the reality of what needs to be done more clearly.

Now, this isn’t always easy. Accepting really difficult things like loss, pain, or unfairness takes time and a lot of courage. It’s a process, not a switch you can just flip. Be patient with yourself. Start small. Maybe there’s a minor annoyance in your life that you can try accepting today. Maybe it’s a long line at the grocery store, or a slightly messy room. Instead of getting frustrated, just acknowledge it: “Okay, this is how it is right now.” See if you notice a little bit of that internal tension ease.

The more you practice acceptance, the more you’ll realize its power. It’s not about giving up; it’s about strategically letting go of the resistance so that you can move forward with more clarity, peace, and ultimately, more effective action.

So, take a moment today to think about something you might be struggling with. Could there be a way to soften your resistance, to simply accept it for what it is in this moment? You might be surprised at how that simple act can begin to dissolve its hold on you. You’ve got this.

If You Love Someone, You Never Seek to Break Them

April 24, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“If you love someone, you never seek to break them. Love mends, forgives, restores, protects, encourages, supports, inspires, comforts.” – Mysterious Traveler

Think about that for a moment. Really let it sink in.

Sometimes, in the messy reality of life, especially when emotions run high, we might say or do things that chip away at the people we care about. We might criticize harshly, hold onto grudges, or even try to control them. But true love? True love operates on a completely different level. It’s about building up, not tearing down.

Let’s break down each powerful action of love mentioned in this quote:

Love Mends: Imagine a broken vase. You wouldn’t keep smashing the pieces, would you? You’d carefully try to put them back together. Love is like that super glue for the heart and soul. When there are cracks or hurts, love gently works to heal them. It offers understanding and patience, helping to piece things back together stronger than before.

Love Forgives: We all make mistakes. We stumble, we say the wrong things, we let each other down. Forgiveness isn’t about saying what happened was okay. It’s about choosing to let go of the anger and resentment that can poison a relationship. Love understands that everyone is imperfect and offers a clean slate, allowing healing and growth to happen. Holding onto hurt is like carrying a heavy weight – forgiveness sets you both free.

Love Restores: Think of an old, worn-out piece of furniture. Restoration brings it back to its former glory, sometimes even making it better. Love has that same power. When things are damaged or have drifted apart, love actively works to bring back the good times, the connection, and the joy. It’s about putting in the effort to rebuild trust and intimacy.

Love Protects: This isn’t about being a bodyguard, although sometimes it can be! It’s more about safeguarding someone’s heart, their feelings, and their well-being. It means standing up for them when others are being unkind, keeping their secrets safe, and creating a sense of security where they feel valued and safe to be themselves.

Love Encourages: Life throws curveballs. We all face doubts and challenges. Love acts like a cheerleader, offering words of support and belief. It sees the potential in someone, even when they can’t see it themselves. Encouragement gives people the courage to try new things, overcome obstacles, and believe in their own abilities.

Love Supports: Think of a sturdy foundation for a building. Support is the unwavering presence that lets someone know they’re not alone. It’s being there through thick and thin, offering practical help, a listening ear, and a shoulder to lean on. It’s about showing up and letting them know you’ve got their back, no matter what.

Love Inspires: Love can spark something amazing within us. It can motivate us to be better versions of ourselves, to pursue our dreams, and to reach for the stars. When someone feels truly loved and believed in, it ignites a fire within them, pushing them to grow and achieve things they never thought possible.

Love Comforts: When life gets tough, when sadness hits, or when anxiety creeps in, love offers a safe harbor. It’s the warm hug, the gentle words, the quiet presence that soothes and reassures. Comfort is about letting someone know it’s okay to not be okay and offering a space where they can feel safe and understood.

Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Are our actions reflecting this kind of love? Are we building up the people we care about, or are we unintentionally chipping away at their spirit?

True love isn’t always easy. It requires patience, understanding, and a conscious effort to choose kindness over criticism. But the rewards are immeasurable. When we embrace this definition of love, we create relationships that are strong, resilient, and deeply fulfilling.

Let’s strive to be menders, forgivers, restorers, protectors, encouragers, supporters, inspirers, and comforters in the lives of those we hold dear. That, my friends, is the true power of love.

I Think That Some People Forget That Friendships

April 24, 2019 By LLH Leave a Comment

“I think that some people forget that friendships and relationships are not a service that someone provides, it’s a two way street where both give and get.” – Ignoble Savage

Now, what does that really mean for you and me? Let’s break it down in a way that makes sense, because this idea can seriously change how you see the people in your life.

Think about a service you use, like getting your car washed or ordering food. You pay someone, and they do something for you. It’s a one-way thing, right? You’re the customer, they’re providing the service.

But friendships and relationships? They’re totally different. They aren’t like ordering a pizza where you just expect it to show up. They’re more like a garden. If you want beautiful flowers to bloom, you can’t just sit back and watch. You need to plant seeds, water them, give them sunlight, and maybe even pull out some weeds. The garden gives back beauty and maybe even some delicious veggies, but only if you put in the effort.

That’s what it’s all about. Your friends, your family, your romantic partners – they aren’t there just to serve you. They’re not vending machines where you put in your needs and expect them to pop out happiness, support, or attention.

It’s a “two-way street.” Imagine a road with cars going in both directions. For things to flow smoothly, everyone needs to participate. You can’t just drive your car down the middle expecting everyone else to get out of your way. You need to give way, follow the rules, and be mindful of the other drivers.

In your relationships, this means:

It’s not just about what you need. It’s also about what the other person needs. Do they need a listening ear? Do they need help with something? Do they just need to know you’re thinking of them?
You have to put in effort. Just like watering a plant, you need to invest time and energy into your relationships. This could be as simple as sending a text, making a phone call, or just being present when you’re together.
You have to be willing to give. Sometimes, you’ll be the one offering support, advice, or a helping hand. Other times, you’ll be the one receiving it. That’s the natural give and take of a healthy connection.
It’s not always 50/50 at every moment. Life happens. Sometimes one person might need more support than the other. But over time, the effort and care should feel relatively balanced. If it consistently feels like you’re the only one putting in the work, that’s a sign something might be off.

Think about your own friendships and relationships. Are they feeling like a two-way street? Are you both giving and getting? Or does it sometimes feel like you’re the only one doing the driving?

This isn’t about keeping score, but it is about recognizing that healthy connections thrive on mutual effort and care. When both people are invested in the relationship, it becomes stronger, more fulfilling, and a real source of joy and support in your life.

So, take a moment to reflect. How can you be a better participant on the “two-way street” of your important relationships? What can you give today to nurture those connections? It might be a small gesture, but it can make a world of difference.

Keep growing, keep connecting, and remember – healthy relationships are built together.