17 Rules of Happiness

17 Rules for Happiness by Karl Moore

17 Rules of Happiness by Karl Moore

Every day, most of us focus on the grey clouds in the sky. Life is dim and gloomy, and showers are just minutes away. But we forget something. We don’t remember that just behind those clouds, the sun is beaming brightly – every single minute of every single day. These are 17 rules designed to shift your perspective, helping you to rediscover the happiness you may have forgotten.

Rule #1 – Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself! It’s not going to help the situation. It’ll only help you to wallow in a state of apathy, playing the victim. The kind of person that things happen to, but that can’t do anything about it. By stopping feeling sorry for yourself, you can actually get on and DO something about it. If you want to be happy – stop feeling sorry for yourself. “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” – Helen Keller

Rule #2 – Be Grateful. Think of all the wonderful things you have to be grateful for right now. It could be your family. Or your health. Maybe your home. Your friends. Your brain. Your heart. Your spirit. We’ve all got amazing things in our own lives that make us smile with joy. And if we can count these blessings every day, we’ll discover a greater appreciation of the beautiful world we surround ourselves with. “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” – Meister Eckhardt

Rule #3 – Say Yes More. We fight against what happens to us in life, rather than allowing it to be as it is. We resist it, rather than accepting it. We say “No!” rather than saying “Yes” – or even just “Okay.” By saying “Yes!” more to life, we go with the flow. Things become more enjoyable and positive, less stressful and anxious, and often the situation turns out for the better regardless. “I will say yes to every favor, request, suggestion and invitation. I will swear to say yes where once I would say no.” – Danny Wallace

Rule #4 – Follow Your Bliss. Bliss is what you’re doing when you’re wrapped up in the moment. When you’re so thrilled just to be doing it, it ceases even to be work anymore. Your bliss occurs when you’re living in the moment, and time doesn’t really matter anymore. It’s not for the money, it’s for the pleasure. “When you follow your bliss, doors will open where you would not have thought there would be doors; and where there wouldn’t be a door for anyone else.” – Joseph Campbell

Rule #5 – Learn to Let Go. Remember, letting go doesn’t mean you “forgive” the person at the grocery store, or you “allow” that kind of behavior. It just means that you release the negative emotion inside of you. By releasing negative emotions, you’ll not only enjoy much more freedom in your life – you’ll also become more emotionally stable and less stressed too. “By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try, the world is beyond the winning.” –Lao Tzu

Rule #6 – Do Random Acts of Kindness. The more we give, the more we receive. A Random Acts of Kindness or RAK is a small act of kindness that you grant to someone else in the world – for absolutely no reason whatsoever, without expecting anything in return. Just throw a little extra kindness out to the world – and watch how you find greater happiness starting to flood back into your own life. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama

Rule #7 – Happiness Is Only Ever Now. We spend so much time waiting to be happy in the future, or worrying about the past, that we forget to live in the moment. But here’s the thing: Life is transient. The past has gone. The future is just a dream. The only time that truly exists ever is RIGHT NOW. RIGHT NOW is the ONLY time you can do or change ANYTHING in your life. And NOW is the only time you have. “Few of us ever live in the present, we are forever anticipating what is to come or remembering what has gone.” – Louis LArmor

Rule #8 – Experience, Don’t Hoard! Investing in experiences rather than material goods created greater lasting happiness. It doesn’thave to be big and it doesn’t have to be expensive. And you can always do it on your own, too. By living, and truly experiencing life, we feel more whole, fulfilled and authentic. So, experience – don’t hoard – and you will be happy. “When youre curious, you find lots of interesting things to do.” – Walt Disney

Rule #9 – Appreciate Both Sides of the Coin. The truth is that in order for you to experience true happiness in your life, you must experience sadness. Without sadness, we really can’t even understand what happiness is. Just enjoy and embrace all your life adventures. And when seemingly negative things happen, remember that it’s just the duality of life. It’s just the other side of the coin. It’s required. It’s part of the equation. “You don’t know when you’ve hit a peak until you’re coming down. And you don’t know when you’ve hit a trough until you’re climbing out. It’s all good.” – David Brent

Rule #10 – Be More Social. Countless studies on the science of happiness have turned up one single characteristic of the happiest and most successful people in society. They have a large social network! Don’t just wait for interesting people to stumble into your life. Keep going and going. Expand your social circle as far as you can. Be the person that walks through town and bumps into a dozen friends. “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

Rule #11 – Love More! We must realize that we feel the most happy in life – when we are the one giving the love! The more we love others, the happier he became. The more we love the world around us, the happier we become. The more we love even our enemies, the happier we become. And best of all, WE can control the amount of love we give – and thereby control the amount of happiness we experience. “Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.” – Barbara De Angelis

Rule #12 – Have a Dream. Dream are critical. They light up life. Without them, we become bored, and tired, and apathetic. So, take this opportunity to really clarify your dreams. Take a pen and paper and spend an hour figuring out what you really dream about. But whatever you do, make sure you have a dream. They’re incredibly important. Dreams are the spark plugs of the spirit. Make sure yours are ready for action. “A person starts dying when they stop dreaming.” – Brian Williams

Rule #13 – Intention Sets Direction. Decide on where you’re going and how it’ll be for you – and it’ll happen. set your intention first. Make it clear that you’re going to have a great time, you’ll meet some fantastic people, and that it’s going to be wonderful. Set your general intention every morning and every night, too. The brighter and more positive, the better. Set your sunny intention – and you will be happy. “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford

Rule #14 – Enjoy Simple Pleasures. It’s an attitude. The ability to appreciate the happiness, the beauty, the pleasure in the simple things around us. Remember the simple things that you truly enjoy. Then take time out to experience them again. Or even better, turn them into little daily or weekly rituals, filling your life with sunshine. Quite simply, enjoy simple pleasures and rituals – and you will be happy. “Simplicity is the essence of happiness.” – Cedric Bledsoe

Rule #15 – Accept What Is. By accepting, welcoming, embracing what is, you clear all of your emotions. Your thoughts gain more clarity. You become happier. You experience more freedom. If you can change things, after accepting them, you’ll have a sharper mind and more energy to do so. Pointless worrying – there’s nothing you can do about it. Shrug and smile about it, that’s life. “Happiness is a function of accepting what is.” – Werner Erhard

Rule #16 – Zoom Out and Don’t Sweat. You never, ever know what is around the corner. So, try regularly “zooming out” of your current picture, and realizing the true priorities in your life. If you can, do it every day – particularly when you return home from work. Then kick back your shoes, and enjoy some quality time with family and friends. Life is short. “If you do not raise your eyes you will think that you are the highest point.” – Antonio Porchia

Rule #17 – Laugh, Dance, Smile! Surround yourself with happiness – wonderful music, dance classes, evenings with friends. Take time to laugh at the craziness of life! Splash out and enjoy to the max. True happiness, self-development, freedom, comes from inside – and is expressed externally in bright faces, a big smile, and plenty of laughing. Laugh at all of the silly problems you’ve been holding on to, so very well, for so long. “A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life’s worthwhile.” – Unknown

The Rules of Happiness: How to Be Happy by Karl Moore is available here – Get it Today.


  1. Felt so good reading this.
    Put a smile on face!
    It’s so well-written too. The addition of quotes in every reason make it all the more enjoyable…
    Thanks! 🙂

  2. This is awesome! I’m a military wife dealing with a husband that I’ve known for 13yrs and married a year. After he was away and came back home he told me that he hasn’t been in love with me for the past five years. He constantly seeks the attention of women and told me he has a girlfriend who is from France. But he says he wants me to be successful and still talks down to me…So this actually made my day a better thank you. Trying to stay sane raising both our children…keep this website inspiring.

  3. I’m so glad I came across this website, I’m having a battle within myself and I’m trying to change my life. I am a very unhappy person although I have a lot to be thankful for and I have finally found true love. So many things happened while reading this as well as some clarity for me. The added quotes were a bonus. Thank you for the seed.

  4. Very timely…made me appreciate my life right now after worrying too much how relationship works . I just had to let it go…and its worth it, thousand things unfolded and returned. Thank you so much . 🙂

  5. But what about when you give something valuable to someone such as love,affection or you try to make them feel better or you show your interest in their lives and all you get is indiferrence and even worse,unkindness and ingratitude?

  6. There’s nothing wrong with feeling unhappy. It is the catalyst for change. Use any negative feelings to propel yourself towards something better. Listen to your inner voice, which knows better than anyone what you should be doing with your life – even whether you should be trying to be happy!!!

  7. I just got full custody of my two young daughters. My older daughter is showing a lot of signs of child depression and anxiety. It’s been incredibly hard with this transition and trying to stay strong for my kids and work a full time job at the same time. I became emotional several times while reading this article. So thankful the article found me. I’m feeling very inspired by it and I want to put all of this into affect in my daily life. Thank you!!!

  8. Thank you so much for this. Lately I’ve been having issues and queries in my life — this article just enlightened me. Let’s just live this positively and happily. Kudos to the authors and whoever runs this page. 😀

  9. Awesome..I am always feeling sad….especially whenever I remember that I am far behind my contemporaries….with what I read today….my orientation to life has changed.I am inspired with this write-up….

  10. Great post. Love the idea about “zooming out” and putting everything in perspective as well as the reminder to appreciate the blessings present in your life.

    -Shad Dixon

  11. wonderful…i just have been focusing and thinking that,for i to be happy i must have great pleasure,bt only to realise that i should appreciate the simple pleasures..very very helpful. and again to me depression is over now,why?’love the both sides of the coin…coz for real happiness to be, saddness must have been b4… thank u,keep the fire burning

  12. wow guyz..some of the times we get wrried by pssng thngs,letting go is the best way whenever…i love this page!

  13. okay, so i have been going through a very dark and depressing phase of my life. had to deal with so much of emotional drama, mental chaos, toxic friendships and school troubles…. But now im willing to move forward in my life and live my best version. this page gave me so much of inspiration and so much of hope, you guys cant imagine. i love u so much, this is a gem for me. starting from today i’ll be all that i wanted to be and practice these golden tips. one day i’ll be thanking you guys for contributing in my life changing venture!!!

  14. I am so glad I read this. After being diagnosed with breast cancer in March, going through a bilateral mastectomy, my boyfriend, who I truly cared for, abandoning me, I really found it hard to be happy. I forgot to appreciate the little things and focus on the positive things in my life. I will read this every morning as a reminder that my life is not that bad. I survived cancer and my ex boyfriend had a problem, it was not me. This was an eye opener.

  15. #3 does not bring more happiness. While I am all for being generous and kind and giving, there comes a time in your life when saying no is the better option. No to people taking your time away from your family, no to people taking advantage of you in many ways, and no to doing things you just do not have the time for. Giving your love and time and heart and soul is a great way to live. But you have to set boundaries for yourself also….

  16. I just read this and I have been praying to God for s miracle to turn my life around. I feel like God is finally answering my prayers. I just got an awesome job today and I’m fighting for custody of my 13-year-old juvenile daughter awesomelife is good thank you lord

  17. Keep it up! Everything that happens is for your benefit…for your growth. Keep going, keep growing and keep praying. Great things are coming your way.

  18. This seems like a life-coach, whatever you need and whatever you doubted is covered. I read one qoute every morning to empower myself. Now I live my life happily.

  19. Worth Reading…Very well written…we must do something for the people who are depressed…we can make them happy…

  20. Hi! Frndz.. My name is Arthur john mesca bru.. From Nort tripura, Gachirampara..thankx to these website

  21. wow,this is wonderful because my boyfriend made me unhappy,but now I know happiness is all I need in life to move on. I love this page so much it keeps me on point.

  22. I’d agree with most of the rules. Thank you for it. We live once and sometimes do not even realize how awesome the life is, and how complex and fragile we imagine it to be.

  23. These rules are so inspiring and well-written. They make me want to jump out of bed right now and start fighting for my happiness! Thank you for this wonderful post & keep on inspiring everyone!

    Leni | minimizeorganize.com

  24. This site is great for Linda C. Mejia.

    Hopefully she will someday find it/ One of the things I loved about her, was her sincere smile and we ended becoming family. Now, even though some 28 years later, I would love her to continue giving the gift of her smile to the world.

    Ignacio Beltrán.

  25. Great article. The only thing that matters in life is feeling good. Work on being happy and the rest will fall into place.

  26. Great article Karl! I really believe what you are saying. I am looking for like minded people and I think you hit a home run with your 17 Rules of Happiness. I mean, there is a lot to say about each of these rules, but it would be interesting if more people would follow Rule #6 – Do Random Acts of Kindness (how that would change the world) and if people just stop trying to be happy and just become happy, like a famous singer Mike Dirnt quoted: Life Is A Road And Not A Destination. I wrote about that too. Hope it contributes to you blog post: http://www.dailyhappinessadvice.com/happiness-is-road-not-destination


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