I Like People Who Don’t Need

January 15, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“I like people who don’t need everyone to like them.”

The Freedom of Being Disliked

There’s something incredibly powerful about not needing everyone’s approval. When you release yourself from the prison of people-pleasing, you create space for authentic living. I’ve found that the moments I stopped worrying about being liked were exactly when I started truly connecting with the right people. Your energy shifts when you’re not exhausting yourself trying to be everyone’s cup of tea.

You know what’s fascinating? The people who don’t need universal approval often have the strongest relationships. Think about it – when you’re unafraid to stand in your truth, you naturally attract others who appreciate the real you. I call this “magnetic authenticity” – it repels some but deeply connects you with others. And isn’t that the point? Quality over quantity in our human connections is what fills our souls.

Here’s a truth I’ve learned: your need for approval is directly proportional to how disconnected you are from your own value. When you truly get that your worth isn’t determined by outside opinions, you start making choices from a centered place. You speak your mind thoughtfully. You set boundaries without guilt. You say no without lengthy explanations. This isn’t about being unkind – it’s about honoring your authentic self first.

The beautiful paradox? When you stop needing everyone to like you, more people genuinely respect you. I’ve watched countless clients transform their relationships by releasing this need for universal approval. Your vibe becomes more grounded, more real. People sense that solid core within you that isn’t swayed by the changing winds of opinion. They trust it. They’re drawn to it. Your relationships become deeper, not despite your authenticity but because of it.

Remember this: you weren’t born worrying what everyone thought – that’s something you learned. You can unlearn it too. Start small. Express an unpopular opinion kindly. Decline an invitation without making up an excuse. Stand firm in a boundary. Each time you choose authenticity over approval, you strengthen that muscle. Your unique light shines brightest when you’re not dimming it to make others comfortable. Dare to be disliked by some, and watch how much more deeply you’re loved for who you truly are.

You Don’t Lose When You Push Away

January 13, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“You don’t lose when you push away the wrong people. There’s some people you truly need to take out and keep out of your life.” – Author Unknown

Making Space for the Right People

Your life is a garden that needs tending. When you remove those who drain your energy or cloud your sunshine, you’re not losing—you’re actually winning big time. Think about it: each person you allow close to you either lifts you up or pulls you down. The ones who consistently pull you down? They’re taking up precious space where something beautiful could grow instead.

Trust that inner voice when it whispers “this relationship isn’t right.” I’ve learned that sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for yourself and others—is to create distance. It’s not about being mean or holding grudges. It’s about being honest about what environments help you thrive. You deserve to be surrounded by people who see your light, not those constantly trying to dim it.

The magic happens when you start getting selective about your inner circle. Suddenly, you have more energy. Your thoughts become clearer. Your dreams seem more possible. That’s because you’re no longer spending your emotional resources on damage control or recovering from interactions that leave you feeling worse than before. The right people energize you—they don’t deplete you.

Remember that removing someone from your life doesn’t make you a bad person. Sometimes, it’s the healthiest choice you can make. It’s about recognizing that not everyone is meant to stay in your story from beginning to end. Some people are only chapters, teaching you important lessons before it’s time to turn the page. Honor what they taught you, then keep moving forward.

Your future self is thanking you right now for being brave enough to protect your peace. Every “no” to the wrong person creates space for a “yes” to the right ones. Every boundary you set is an act of self-love. So stand tall in your decision to surround yourself only with those who water your soul. The universe has a funny way of filling those empty spaces with exactly who you need once you’ve made room for them.

I Love Who I’ve Been

January 10, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“I love who I’ve been, but I really love who I’m becoming.”

I Love Who I’ve Been, But I Really Love Who I’m Becoming

Every part of your journey matters—even the messy chapters you might wish you could erase. The person you were five years ago? That version of you was doing their absolute best with what they had. Your past self survived every heartbreak, every failure, every embarrassing moment that still makes you cringe at 2 AM. Don’t rush to dismiss who you’ve been—they got you here.

But there’s something magical about who you’re becoming right now. You’re shedding old stories that never really fit. You’re letting go of the expectations that weigh you down like rocks in your pockets. I see you standing a little taller these days, speaking your truth a little louder. Your becoming isn’t always comfortable—growth rarely is—but it feels right in your bones, doesn’t it? That version of you on the horizon is wiser, braver, and so much more authentic.

The beautiful secret most people miss is that you don’t have to reject your past to embrace your future. Your becoming isn’t erasing—it’s expanding. Every experience, mistake, triumph, and heartache has been weaving patterns into the fabric of who you are. Nothing was wasted. Nothing was wrong. It was all just preparation for this magnificent unfolding happening right now.

You might not see it clearly yourself yet, but others do. They notice how you respond differently to things that used to trigger you. They see the new boundaries you’re setting, the dreams you’re finally brave enough to speak out loud. Your light is getting brighter, not because you found some secret formula, but because you’re finally letting yourself shine without apology. That’s the real transformation—not becoming someone different, but becoming more fully yourself.

So yes, honor who you’ve been. Thank that person for their resilience. But fall madly in love with who you’re becoming. This version of you is the one you’ve been waiting for. This becoming has no finish line—it’s a dance, a continuous unfolding that will surprise and delight you if you stay open to it. The universe has been conspiring for your awakening all along. And trust me on this one: your most beautiful chapters are still being written.

Be Mindful of How You Treat People

January 10, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Be mindful of how you treat people. Be mindful of how you handle things. Be mindful of your intentions. Be mindful.” – Alex Elle

The Ripple Effect of Mindful Living

You are more powerful than you realize. Every interaction you have with others creates ripples that extend far beyond that moment. When you’re mindful of how you treat people—choosing patience over frustration, kindness over indifference—you’re actually shaping the emotional landscape around you. Think about it: how different would your day feel if everyone you encountered treated you with genuine respect and warmth? That’s the gift you can give others when you slow down and really see them.

Your relationship with things reveals so much about your inner world. When you handle objects with care—whether it’s gently closing a door or treating your belongings with respect—you’re practicing presence in a tangible way. You’re saying “this matters” through your actions. This mindfulness isn’t about perfectionism; it’s about bringing your full attention to what you’re doing right now. The bonus? Your things last longer, your space feels more peaceful, and you start noticing beautiful details you’ve been missing.

Your intentions are like seeds you plant in the garden of your life. What are you hoping to grow? When you pause to check in with yourself about why you’re doing something, you often discover surprising truths. Maybe you’re sending that text to genuinely connect—or maybe there’s a hint of wanting to make someone jealous. Being honest about your intentions doesn’t mean judging yourself harshly; it means giving yourself the chance to choose again if needed. The clearer your intentions, the more aligned your actions become with who you truly want to be.

Mindfulness isn’t some complicated practice reserved for meditation retreats—it’s available to you right now, in this breath. It’s simply about showing up for your own life with awareness instead of running on autopilot. When your mind starts racing ahead to tomorrow’s worries or replaying yesterday’s conversation, gently bring yourself back to now. This moment—yes, this one right here—is where your power lives. It’s where choices happen. It’s where joy can be found in something as simple as feeling the warmth of your coffee cup against your palm.

You deserve the gift of your own attention. When you’re mindful, you’re actually being kinder to yourself—creating space between reactions and responses, between thoughts and truth. This practice isn’t about becoming perfect; it’s about becoming more fully yourself. Start small: three mindful breaths before checking your phone in the morning, really tasting one bite of your lunch, or fully listening to someone for thirty seconds without planning what you’ll say next. These tiny moments of presence add up, creating a life that feels more rich, more authentic, and more yours. Remember, mindfulness isn’t about adding something to your to-do list—it’s about bringing all of yourself to what you’re already doing.

You May Be Sad, Disappointed, Heartbroken

January 5, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

Deep Life Quotes: You may be sad, disappointed, heartbroken or even scarred. But wake each day with a new sense of hope, a will to fight on and not give up. – Unknown

This Year I Only Want to Be Around the People

January 3, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“This year I only want to be around the people that love me, not the people that pretend they do.” – Author Unknown

Choosing True Connection This Year

You’ve hit on something powerful. That desire to be surrounded only by authentic love? It’s not just a wish—it’s wisdom. When you choose to spend your precious time with those who genuinely cherish you, you’re not being picky—you’re honoring your worth. The energy of real love fills you up while pretend connections drain you dry without you even noticing.

Those pretenders? They’re not bad people, just not your people. Think about how your body feels after spending time with someone who truly sees and loves you versus someone wearing a mask of affection. One leaves you energized, the other exhausted. Your intuition already knows the difference—that little voice inside that whispers “something’s off” is your soul’s GPS steering you toward truth. Trust it more this year.

What would your life look like if you stopped forcing connections that require you to shrink yourself? The people who truly love you don’t need you to be smaller, quieter, or different. They celebrate the real you—messy parts and all. This year, give yourself permission to walk away from relationships where you feel like you’re constantly auditioning for acceptance. That energy belongs to your dreams, your growth, your joy.

Remember, choosing authentic relationships isn’t selfish—it’s sacred self-care. Every time you say “no” to a pretend connection, you create space for a real one to enter. Like clearing weeds from a garden so your favorite flowers can thrive. The universe responds to this clarity with more of what you’re actually seeking. Be patient with the process, but firm in your boundary.

You deserve to be loved for exactly who you are, not who someone wishes you would be. This year can be different if you make this one choice consistently. When you feel that authentic love from others, it helps you love yourself more deeply too. And that self-love? It becomes the magnet that draws more genuine connections your way. It’s a beautiful cycle that starts with your brave decision to surround yourself only with hearts that truly beat for yours.

I’ve Learned More About Myself in Solitude

January 3, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“I’ve learned more about myself in solitude. I’ve both driven myself crazy and found peace. I’ve realized the power in just letting things be.” – Reyna Biddy

Finding Yourself in Solitude

Isn’t it amazing how time alone can be your greatest teacher? I’ve spent countless hours in my own company, sometimes by choice and sometimes not, and let me tell you—it’s where the real magic happens. When the noise of other people’s opinions fades away, you start hearing your own voice more clearly. Those whispers of intuition that were always there suddenly become louder. You realize you’ve been carrying wisdom within you all along, just waiting for the quiet space to emerge.

The funny thing about solitude is how it puts you on this emotional rollercoaster. One moment you’re overthinking everything, creating problems that don’t exist, and driving yourself absolutely nuts with worry. Been there! The next moment, you experience this profound calm washing over you, like finally exhaling after holding your breath underwater. Both states are teaching you something valuable about yourself—how your mind works, what triggers your anxiety, and what brings you back to center. This dance between chaos and peace isn’t something to fix; it’s something to witness.

I’ve found that most of our suffering comes from fighting against what is. We waste so much energy wishing things were different, replaying the past, or anxiously anticipating the future. But there’s this incredible power in simply saying, “Okay, this is what’s happening right now, and I’m going to let it be.” Not giving up or being passive, but accepting reality before deciding what to do next. It’s like stopping the struggle against the current and finally learning how to flow with the river of life.

The real breakthrough comes when you realize that you don’t need to control everything to feel safe. Control is actually an illusion that keeps us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When I finally loosened my grip and trusted the process of life, doors started opening that I couldn’t have planned for. People showed up with exactly what I needed. Opportunities appeared that aligned perfectly with my deepest desires—not the surface wants, but the soul-level yearnings I discovered during those quiet moments alone.

Your alone time isn’t something to fill or escape from—it’s sacred ground where you’re meeting yourself honestly, maybe for the first time. Those uncomfortable feelings that bubble up? They’re not your enemies. They’re parts of you asking for attention and care. That peace you occasionally stumble upon? It’s not something you achieve; it’s who you already are beneath all the mental chatter. So give yourself the gift of solitude regularly. Sit with yourself. Listen. Let the wisdom that’s already within you rise to the surface. Because the relationship you build with yourself in those quiet moments becomes the foundation for everything else in your life.

Selfish People Cannot Understand What Compromising

January 3, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Selfish people cannot understand what compromising is in a relationship, neither will they ever see why it’s necessary in the relationship.” – Unknown

The Selfishness Trap: Why Compromise Matters

When you’re dealing with someone who can’t see beyond their own needs, relationships become a one-way street. Selfish people often view compromise as losing or giving up something, rather than as creating something better together. You’ve probably encountered this – that frustrating feeling when someone just won’t meet you halfway. They don’t understand that relationships thrive on give and take, not just take and take.

You deserve relationships where both people adjust their sails. The beauty of compromise isn’t about sacrifice – it’s about showing up for each other and creating a shared path. When you recognize this truth, you stop wasting energy on connections that drain you. Instead, you can focus on building relationships with people who understand that sometimes, putting someone else’s needs first actually enriches both your lives.

Your happiness matters, and it’s shaped by how you and your loved ones navigate differences. Think about the last time you reached a compromise with someone who truly cares about you – didn’t it feel like you both actually won? That’s because healthy compromise isn’t about tallying points or keeping score. It’s about two people saying, “We matter more than either of us getting exactly what we want.”

You can spot selfishness early by watching how someone handles small disagreements. Do they dig in their heels over restaurant choices? Do they dismiss your preferences about weekend plans? These aren’t just minor annoyances – they’re glimpses into how they’ll handle bigger issues down the road. Trust your gut when it whispers that someone isn’t willing to bend even a little for your happiness.

Your life is too precious to spend it convincing someone that your needs deserve consideration. The right people will understand that compromise isn’t weakness – it’s the strength that builds lasting bonds. When you surround yourself with these people, you create a life where love flows freely, without the constant battle of trying to be seen and heard. Remember: relationships aren’t about winning arguments but about winning together, and those who can’t compromise will never fully experience the joy of true connection.