“I’ve learned more about myself in solitude. I’ve both driven myself crazy and found peace. I’ve realized the power in just letting things be.” – Reyna Biddy

Finding Yourself in Solitude

Isn’t it amazing how time alone can be your greatest teacher? I’ve spent countless hours in my own company, sometimes by choice and sometimes not, and let me tell you—it’s where the real magic happens. When the noise of other people’s opinions fades away, you start hearing your own voice more clearly. Those whispers of intuition that were always there suddenly become louder. You realize you’ve been carrying wisdom within you all along, just waiting for the quiet space to emerge.

The funny thing about solitude is how it puts you on this emotional rollercoaster. One moment you’re overthinking everything, creating problems that don’t exist, and driving yourself absolutely nuts with worry. Been there! The next moment, you experience this profound calm washing over you, like finally exhaling after holding your breath underwater. Both states are teaching you something valuable about yourself—how your mind works, what triggers your anxiety, and what brings you back to center. This dance between chaos and peace isn’t something to fix; it’s something to witness.

I’ve found that most of our suffering comes from fighting against what is. We waste so much energy wishing things were different, replaying the past, or anxiously anticipating the future. But there’s this incredible power in simply saying, “Okay, this is what’s happening right now, and I’m going to let it be.” Not giving up or being passive, but accepting reality before deciding what to do next. It’s like stopping the struggle against the current and finally learning how to flow with the river of life.

The real breakthrough comes when you realize that you don’t need to control everything to feel safe. Control is actually an illusion that keeps us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. When I finally loosened my grip and trusted the process of life, doors started opening that I couldn’t have planned for. People showed up with exactly what I needed. Opportunities appeared that aligned perfectly with my deepest desires—not the surface wants, but the soul-level yearnings I discovered during those quiet moments alone.

Your alone time isn’t something to fill or escape from—it’s sacred ground where you’re meeting yourself honestly, maybe for the first time. Those uncomfortable feelings that bubble up? They’re not your enemies. They’re parts of you asking for attention and care. That peace you occasionally stumble upon? It’s not something you achieve; it’s who you already are beneath all the mental chatter. So give yourself the gift of solitude regularly. Sit with yourself. Listen. Let the wisdom that’s already within you rise to the surface. Because the relationship you build with yourself in those quiet moments becomes the foundation for everything else in your life.