Anything That Costs You Your Peace

June 19, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive. Learn to let it go. – Author Unknown

The Price of Peace: Letting Go of What Weighs You Down

When I think about the idea that “anything that costs you your peace is too expensive,” I’m reminded of how often we cling to things that hurt us. We hang onto toxic relationships, replay past mistakes, or chase after approval from people who will never give it. We do this thinking we’re protecting something valuable, when really, we’re paying with our most precious currency: our peace of mind. That mental toll—the constant anxiety, the sleepless nights, the knot in your stomach—is a price far too high for whatever you think you’re gaining.

Learning to let go isn’t about giving up or being weak. It’s actually about being brave enough to admit when something isn’t working and smart enough to redirect your energy toward what truly matters. Think about how you feel when you finally release a grudge or walk away from a situation that’s been draining you for months. That lightness, that sense of relief—that’s your natural state. We weren’t designed to carry heavy emotional baggage through life, yet so many of us do exactly that.

The tricky part is figuring out what to let go of, because not all discomfort signals something wrong. Sometimes growth feels uncomfortable too. The key difference is whether something drains your spirit or challenges you to grow. Does thinking about this person or situation make you feel smaller, heavier, and more trapped? Or does it push you toward becoming a better version of yourself? Your gut usually knows the answer before your head does. Trust that inner wisdom—it rarely steers you wrong.

Letting go happens in layers, not all at once. You might need to release the same thing multiple times before it fully leaves your system. That’s normal. I’ve had to let go of certain hurts a hundred different times before they finally stopped affecting me. Each time gets a little easier, like exercising a muscle that grows stronger with use. Start small—maybe it’s not checking your ex’s social media today, or deciding not to argue with that difficult relative this one time. These small choices create space for peace to grow.

At the end of the day, your peace isn’t just about feeling good—it’s the foundation that supports everything else in your life. When you’re at peace, you make better decisions, you’re more present for the people you love, and you can actually enjoy your achievements instead of immediately chasing the next thing. So ask yourself: What am I holding onto that’s stealing my peace? Whatever it is—a relationship, a goal, a belief about yourself—if it consistently costs you your mental well-being, it’s time to open your hands and let it go. The space it leaves behind won’t stay empty for long—it’ll fill with possibilities you couldn’t see before.

Stop Worrying About Someone

May 31, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Stop worrying about someone who isn’t worried about you.” – Author Unknown

Stop Worrying About Someone Who Isn’t Worried About You

One of the hardest truths I’ve learned is that we can’t pour our energy into people who aren’t investing in us. When you spend hours analyzing someone’s text messages or wondering why they didn’t call, you’re giving away your most precious resource—your attention and emotional energy—to someone who hasn’t earned it. This creates an unbalanced relationship where you’re doing all the emotional heavy lifting. Your heart deserves better than to be an afterthought in someone else’s story.

Think about relationships like plants. Some connections naturally flourish with minimal effort—both people water them, both ensure they get sunlight. But when you’re the only one tending to a relationship, you’ll eventually exhaust yourself. I’ve seen so many people drain themselves trying to make someone care, when that energy could have nourished connections with people who already value them. The moment you stop chasing someone’s approval is the moment you start reclaiming your power.

This isn’t about being cold or giving up on people—it’s about matching energy. When someone shows you through consistent actions that you’re not a priority, believing them is an act of self-respect. I’ve watched clients transform their lives when they finally redirect the love they were pouring into unresponsive relationships back toward themselves. Suddenly, they had energy for new hobbies, deeper friendships, and personal growth that had been on hold while they were waiting for someone else’s validation.

The beautiful paradox is that when you stop worrying about people who aren’t worried about you, your life expands. You start noticing the people who have been there all along, showing up without you having to beg. You recognize invitations you were too distracted to accept. Your standards naturally rise because you’re no longer accustomed to crumbs of attention. This shift isn’t immediate—it happens gradually as you practice redirecting your thoughts away from those who don’t appreciate you.

Remember that letting go doesn’t mean you failed—it means you’re brave enough to face reality and wise enough to choose yourself. The space created by releasing what isn’t meant for you becomes room for what is. I’ve seen this pattern repeat countless times: the moment someone stops chasing the wrong person, the right opportunities begin appearing. Your peace matters more than being important to someone who treats your heart carelessly. Trust that by protecting your energy now, you’re creating space for connections that will actually nourish you rather than deplete you.

Never Let Anyone to Tell You That You Need

May 30, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Never let anyone to tell you that you need to be positive all the time; you are not a robot.” – Paulo Coelho

Embrace Your Full Emotional Spectrum

Never let anyone tell you that you need to be positive all the time; you are not a robot. Life isn’t meant to be experienced through a single emotional filter. Your sadness, anger, frustration, and fear are just as valid as your joy, excitement, and contentment. These “negative” emotions aren’t your enemies—they’re messengers trying to tell you something important about your needs, boundaries, or values. When we force ourselves to smile through pain, we’re actually disconnecting from our authentic selves.

Think about it—even the most beautiful landscapes have both sunshine and storms. The natural world doesn’t judge a rainy day as “wrong” or try to force it to be sunny. In the same way, true emotional wellness isn’t about being happy 24/7; it’s about developing a healthy relationship with your full range of feelings. Some of my most profound personal growth has come during difficult times when I allowed myself to feel deeply rather than rush to “positive thinking.” Those darker moments often hold the greatest lessons.

The people who insist you should “just be positive” usually mean well, but they’re offering a band-aid when sometimes you need surgery. Real support means sitting with someone in their pain without trying to immediately fix it or bright-side it away. And real strength isn’t about never feeling down—it’s about knowing you can move through any emotion without being destroyed by it. You aren’t weak for feeling sad or anxious; you’re human. And your humanity is your superpower.

That said, there’s a difference between honoring your feelings and getting stuck in them. Feel your emotions fully—cry those tears, pound that pillow, write that angry letter (that you don’t send)—but then ask yourself: “What is this feeling trying to teach me?” Sometimes sadness shows us what we truly value. Fear often points to places where we need more knowledge or support. Even jealousy can reveal our unacknowledged desires. Your emotions are information, not character flaws.

So today, I invite you to drop the exhausting pretense of constant positivity. Take a deep breath and check in with how you’re really feeling right now. Maybe you’re doing great, or maybe you’re struggling—either way is perfectly okay. The most authentic, fulfilling life isn’t built on forced smiles, but on honest self-awareness and self-compassion. Remember: you’re a wonderfully complex human being with a heart designed to experience the full spectrum of emotions. That’s not a design flaw—it’s what makes your life rich, meaningful, and real.

Your past Is Just a Lesson

May 29, 2017 By LLH 1 Comment

“Your past is just a lesson, not a life sentence.” – Author Unknown

Your Past Is a Lesson, Not a Life Sentence

We’ve all got those moments we wish we could erase—the mistakes that keep us up at night, the relationships we destroyed, the opportunities we missed. It’s like we’re walking around dragging this heavy ball and chain of our past behind us. But here’s the truth: your past is meant to be a teacher, not your prison guard. Those painful chapters weren’t written to keep you locked in a cell of shame and regret. They were written to show you something important about yourself and your journey.

Think about how you learned to ride a bike. You didn’t just hop on and pedal away perfectly the first time, right? You fell. You got scrapes and bruises. But each time you fell, you learned something new about balance, about steering, about how to catch yourself. Your mistakes weren’t failures—they were feedback. The same goes for your life mistakes. That relationship that crashed and burned? It taught you what you really need in a partner. That job you got fired from? It showed you what kind of work environment helps you thrive. These aren’t life sentences condemning you to misery—they’re lessons showing you the way forward.

The problem is we often get stuck in the courtroom of our mind, where we’re both the accused and the judge. We keep replaying the evidence of our past errors, sentencing ourselves to “never good enough” or “always messing up.” But what if today you decided to grant yourself parole? What if you looked at those past moments and said, “Thank you for what you taught me” instead of “I hate you for what you did to me”? This single shift in perspective can unlock the door to your self-made prison.

Your future is written in pencil, not carved in stone. Whatever happened yesterday—or last year, or twenty years ago—doesn’t have to determine what happens tomorrow. The beauty of being human is our capacity to change, to grow, to reinvent ourselves. Someone who hurt others can become compassionate. Someone who failed can become successful. Someone who was lost can find their way. The only thing standing between you and transformation is the belief that your past defines you. It doesn’t. Your choices today define you.

So take that painful past experience out of the prison cell in your mind and move it to the classroom instead. Ask yourself: “What was I supposed to learn from this? How has this prepared me for something better?” When you see your struggles as preparation rather than punishment, everything shifts. Your story isn’t over—it’s just getting interesting. The chapter you’re writing right now can be completely different from the ones before. Your history may explain you, but it doesn’t have to limit you. Let your past be the wind at your back pushing you forward, not the weight holding you down.

Stay Away from People Who Make You Feel

May 29, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Stay away from people who make you feel like you aren’t worth their time.” – Author Unknown

Reclaiming Your Worth

When someone makes you feel like you aren’t worth their time, that’s your cue to walk away. These people drain your energy and dim your light without even trying. Think about it – we all have the same 24 hours in a day. When someone consistently shows you that they can’t spare any of those hours for you, they’re actually telling you something important about how they value your presence in their life.

The truth is, the right people will make time for you no matter how busy they are. They’ll text back, show up when they say they will, and make you feel valued during the moments you share. The wrong people will always have an excuse, always be “too busy,” and always leave you feeling like you’re chasing after their attention. This isn’t about being needy – it’s about recognizing when a relationship has become one-sided.

What you allow is what will continue. Every time you accept being treated as an afterthought, you’re telling yourself and others that this is what you deserve. But here’s the life-changing truth: you get to decide what kind of energy you want in your life. Walking away from people who don’t value your time isn’t just about setting boundaries – it’s about making space for the right relationships to find you.

The hardest part about letting go is the hope that things might change. But ask yourself: how much of your precious life are you willing to spend waiting for someone to recognize your worth? The moment you stop chasing people who don’t see your value is the moment you start attracting those who do. This isn’t about holding grudges – it’s about protecting your peace and preserving your energy for connections that feel mutual and nourishing.

Remember that your time is the most valuable currency you have. Once spent, you can never get it back. Surround yourself with people who make you feel like spending time with you is a privilege, not a burden. When you honor your worth this way, everything shifts – your confidence grows, your relationships deepen, and your life expands with possibilities that weren’t visible before. The right people don’t make you wonder where you stand – they show you.

Fall in Love with Somebody Who Will Never

May 28, 2017 By LLH 1 Comment

“Fall in love with somebody who will never let you go to sleep wondering if you still matter.” – Author Unknown

Fall in Love With Someone Who Affirms Your Worth

There’s profound wisdom in seeking a partner who never leaves you questioning your place in their heart. When you build a relationship with someone who consistently shows you matter, you create a foundation of security that transforms every aspect of your life. This isn’t about neediness or constant reassurance—it’s about the quiet confidence that comes from knowing you are truly valued by the person who matters most to you.

The relationships that nourish us are the ones where we never have to guess about our importance. Think about those nights when you’ve lain awake, turning over conversations in your mind, analyzing texts, or wondering where you stand. That anxiety drains your energy and dims your light. A loving partner creates a sanctuary where that particular worry simply doesn’t exist. They make their appreciation of you so evident—through their words, their actions, their presence—that doubt cannot take root.

This principle extends beyond romance into every connection worth keeping. The people who deserve your time are those who make space for you, who respond when you reach out, who remember what matters to you. When someone consistently shows you that you’re a priority, they’re showing you their character. Pay attention to this. The way people treat you when life gets busy tells you everything about how they value you when it’s convenient to do so.

Knowing you matter to someone is like having an emotional home base—a place of safety from which you can venture out into the world, take risks, and fully become yourself. Without that security, you spend precious energy that could be directed toward growth, creativity, and joy. Instead, choose connections where your worth is a given, not something you have to earn repeatedly or question regularly.

Remember that you teach people how to treat you by what you accept. If you’re constantly wondering if you matter to someone, that uncertainty itself is a message. You deserve clarity. You deserve peace. You deserve to fall asleep each night knowing beyond doubt that you are cherished. Don’t settle for less—not because you’re demanding perfection, but because this kind of love exists, and it’s the kind that helps both people become their best selves.

You’re Not Fake for Leaving People Behind

May 28, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“You’re not fake for leaving people behind who aren’t benefiting you positively.” – Author Unknown

Growing Beyond Relationships That Don’t Serve You

Let’s be honest—walking away from people who don’t lift you up isn’t being fake; it’s being wise. There’s this strange guilt we carry about outgrowing relationships, like we owe everyone permanent access to our lives. But here’s the truth: your personal journey requires regular pruning of connections that drain rather than nourish you. This isn’t about coldly calculating what others can do for you. Rather, it’s recognizing that healthy relationships should have a certain balance, where both people walk away feeling better for having spent time together.

Think about your life as a garden you’re tending. Some relationships are like beautiful flowers that bring color and joy, while others are like weeds that choke out your growth. When you spend hours with someone and consistently feel worse—more doubtful, more anxious, more depleted—that’s your spirit trying to tell you something important. Listen to it. The people who belong in your inner circle are those who water your dreams, not those who salt your soil with criticism, drama, or constant negativity.

Many of us stay in draining relationships because we fear being seen as mean or disloyal. But consider this: every hour you spend with people who diminish you is an hour stolen from connections that could help you bloom. This isn’t selfishness—it’s stewardship of your one precious life. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for both yourself and others is to create distance, allowing everyone space to find relationships where they truly fit. Not every friendship needs to end dramatically; many can simply fade to acquaintanceships with no hard feelings.

I’ve worked with countless people who transformed their lives not by adding anything new, but by releasing what wasn’t serving them. One woman told me her confidence skyrocketed within months of limiting time with a friend who subtly competed with her. Another found the courage to pursue his dreams after stopping weekly dinners with family members who constantly doubted him. The pattern is clear: when you remove sources of negativity, you create space for opportunity and joy to find you.

So give yourself permission to move on when relationships consistently leave you feeling smaller. This doesn’t make you fake—it makes you faithful to your own growth. The people who are meant to travel with you for the long haul will celebrate your boundaries and respect your evolution. And as you get comfortable with letting go, you’ll discover something beautiful: the right people begin to appear almost magically, drawn to the authentic energy you now have space to radiate. Your future self will thank you for having the courage to choose your well-being today.

A Dream Can Fortify a Man’s Life

May 28, 2017 By LLH Leave a Comment

“A dream can fortify a man’s life, or it can bring suffering upon it. A dream can make a man feel alive, or it can kill him instead. Even if a man is abandoned by that dream, part of it will remain smoldering in his heart. Every man has envisioned his life in this way, at least once: a life as a martyr to his dream, his God. To simply exist just because one’s been born is the sort of notion that I hate; I can’t stand it.” – Griffith

The Double-Edged Power of Dreams

Dreams are the fuel that keeps our inner fires burning. When you find that vision that truly resonates with your soul, it can transform your ordinary days into a meaningful journey. Your dream becomes the compass that guides you through life’s confusing maze. It wakes you up in the morning with purpose and sends you to bed with satisfaction. A powerful dream doesn’t just change what you do—it changes who you are. It reshapes your identity and gives you something bigger than yourself to live for.

But dreams can also become cruel masters if we’re not careful. When we become too rigid about how our dreams must unfold, we set ourselves up for heartbreak. I’ve seen too many people crushed under the weight of their unfulfilled expectations. A dream that once gave life can slowly poison it when it becomes an obsession or when we tie our entire self-worth to its achievement. The line between healthy dedication and self-destructive fixation is thinner than we like to admit.

Even when dreams seem to abandon us—when that business fails, that relationship ends, or that opportunity slips away—they leave their mark. Those embers continue to smolder in your heart, sometimes painfully, sometimes as a gentle warmth reminding you of what once mattered. This isn’t failure; it’s the natural evolution of your relationship with your deepest desires. The dream may change form, but the spark that made you chase it in the first place remains part of who you are.

We all seek meaning beyond mere existence. At some point, each of us has imagined dedicating our lives completely to something transcendent—whether that’s creating art, building a family, fighting for justice, or connecting with spiritual purpose. This isn’t foolish idealism; it’s a fundamental human need to matter, to make an impact, to live for something greater than our own comfort. Simply going through the motions because you happen to be alive is a kind of spiritual death that slowly drains life of its color and texture.

The key is finding the middle path—having dreams big enough to inspire you but being flexible about how they manifest. Your dream should be your companion, not your prison guard. Let it evolve as you do. Let it teach you about yourself. The most fulfilling life isn’t martyrdom to a rigid vision but a dance with your deepest values and aspirations, allowing them to guide you while remaining open to life’s surprising turns. Your dream shouldn’t consume you—it should complete you, revealing the person you’re capable of becoming while embracing who you already are.