Don’t Allow a Setback to Give You an Excuse to Sit Back

March 3, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Don’t allow a setback to give you an excuse to sit back. Pick yourself up and continue to move forward!” – Dr. K L Register

Don’t Let Setbacks Keep You Down

When life knocks you down, it’s tempting to stay on the ground. We’ve all been there—facing a rejection, making a mistake, or watching our plans fall apart. But as the saying goes, “Don’t allow a setback to give you an excuse to sit back. Pick yourself up and continue to move forward!” This powerful reminder speaks to the resilience we all have within us, even when we don’t feel it.

Think of setbacks as temporary roadblocks, not permanent barriers. Every successful person has faced failures—often many more than you might imagine. What sets them apart isn’t avoiding these difficult moments, but rather how they respond when challenges arise. Each time you choose to stand back up after being knocked down, you’re building mental strength that will serve you throughout your life.

The most dangerous part of any setback is how easily it can become an excuse for inaction. Our minds are excellent at creating stories—”I’m not good enough,” “This always happens to me,” or “Maybe this just isn’t meant to be.” These thoughts feel protective but actually trap us in place. Instead of letting these stories define you, use them as fuel. Ask yourself: “What can I learn from this?” and “What’s my next step, however small?”

Remember that progress isn’t always a straight line upward. Life moves in cycles of growth, challenge, adjustment, and new growth. The path forward might look different than you originally planned, but movement in any positive direction counts. Be gentle with yourself during the getting-back-up phase, but be firm about not staying down. Your future self will thank you for the courage you show today in continuing to move forward, one step at a time.

It’s Better to Do Something Badly Then to Not

March 1, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“It’s better to do something badly than to not do it at all.” – Jordan Peterson

Embracing Imperfection: The Power of Taking Action

Starting something new is scary. We often convince ourselves that we need to be experts before we even begin, but that’s backward thinking. The truth is that doing something badly is the first step toward doing it well. Every skill you now excel at began with awkward attempts and mistakes. Those first wobbly bike rides, awful-sounding guitar chords, or messy cooking attempts weren’t failures—they were essential beginnings.

Fear of imperfection keeps too many dreams trapped in our minds. We create elaborate fantasies about the perfect time to start, the perfect way to learn, or wait for perfect conditions that never arrive. Meanwhile, time passes. The people who actually grow and achieve their goals are rarely the naturally talented ones—they’re the ones who were willing to be beginners, to look foolish, and to produce imperfect work consistently until improvement naturally followed.

What we often forget is that action creates clarity. When you’re stuck in thinking mode, problems seem bigger and more complicated than they actually are. But once you dive in and start doing, even clumsily, you begin to see the real shape of the challenge. You discover which parts are truly difficult and which were just intimidating in your imagination. Your brain starts solving problems it couldn’t even properly identify before you began.

Remember that perfection is the enemy of progress. The world doesn’t need your perfect effort someday—it needs your imperfect effort today. The manuscript with flaws that actually exists is infinitely more valuable than the flawless novel in your head. The business with problems that’s actually serving customers beats the perfect business plan that never launches. Whatever you’ve been putting off because you can’t do it perfectly, try doing it badly today. You might be surprised how quickly “badly” transforms into “not too bad” and eventually into “pretty good”—but only if you start.

Remember, Most of the Stress in Your Life Comes from the Way You Respond

February 25, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Most of the stress in your life comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and all that stress will disappear.”

Finding Peace Through Perspective: The Power of Response

When we hear that “Most of the stress in your life comes from the way you respond, not the way life is,” we’re being shown a simple but life-changing truth. Think about the last time something went wrong. Was it the situation itself that caused hours of worry, or was it the thoughts spinning in your head? Often, we create storms inside ourselves even when the outside weather is merely cloudy.

Our brains are wired to look for danger and problems. This helped our ancestors survive, but today it means we often react to minor setbacks like they’re major threats. The meeting that runs late, the driver who cuts you off, or the spilled coffee aren’t actually disasters – they become disasters when we tell ourselves stories about what they mean about our day, our worth, or our future. The situation lasts moments, but our response can poison hours or even days of our lives.

Adjusting your attitude doesn’t mean ignoring problems or pretending everything is fine when it isn’t. It means pausing between what happens and how you react. This tiny pause is your superpower. In that space, you can ask: “Is this really as bad as it feels? Will this matter next week? Is there another way to see this?” Sometimes the most stressful situations become valuable lessons, unexpected opportunities, or even funny stories once we shift how we look at them.

The beauty of this wisdom is that while we can’t control most of what happens in life, we always have a say in how we respond. This isn’t just positive thinking – it’s taking back your power. Next time you feel stress building, remember: you’re not stressed because of what’s happening; you’re stressed because of the meaning you’ve attached to it. Change the meaning, and you change your experience. Your response is the one thing in life that is always yours to choose.

Just Remember, They’ll Criticize the Process but Praise…

February 24, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Just remember, they’ll criticize the process but praise the results.” – Jas Waters

They’ll Criticize Your Process, But Praise Your Results

When you’re in the middle of building something great, expect voices from the sidelines. People love to question your methods, your schedule, your priorities—even your sanity. It’s easy to feel discouraged when others don’t understand why you wake up at 5 AM, why you decline social invitations, or why you’re pouring money into something they can’t yet see. Remember that criticism often comes from those watching from a distance, not those in the arena with you.

What these critics don’t realize is that meaningful results require unconventional processes. The path to extraordinary outcomes rarely looks organized or makes sense to outsiders. Your messy notebooks, your seemingly random research tangents, your failed attempts—these aren’t signs you’re doing it wrong. They’re evidence you’re doing the real work that success demands. The very things people question today become the “genius methods” they’ll admire tomorrow.

The truth is, people judge processes in real-time but results in hindsight. When you finally cross that finish line—when your business becomes profitable, when your book gets published, when your health transformation becomes visible—suddenly those same critics will ask for your “secret.” They’ll wonder how you “got so lucky.” The journey that once looked foolish to them will be reframed as brilliant strategy once they see where it led.

So keep going, even when nobody gets it. Let their criticism roll off your back while you focus on the next step in your process. Document your journey if you can—not to prove critics wrong, but to remember your own resilience when those same people eventually come asking for advice. Your validation isn’t found in their approval of your methods, but in the results that even they won’t be able to ignore when you’re done.

Communicate. Even When It’s Uncomfortable…

February 21, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Communicate. Even when it’s uncomfortable. One of the best ways to heal, is simply getting everything out.” – Unknown

Communication: The Path to Healing

Communicating when it’s uncomfortable requires tremendous courage, but it’s precisely in these difficult conversations where genuine healing begins. When we bottle up our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, they don’t simply disappear—they fester and grow in power. Speaking your truth, whether to the person who hurt you, a trusted friend, or even in a journal, creates space between you and your pain. This separation allows you to see your struggles more clearly and begin processing them rather than being consumed by them.

The discomfort that comes with vulnerable communication serves an important purpose. That tension signals that you’re addressing something meaningful, something that matters deeply to your well-being. Many of us avoid difficult conversations because we fear judgment, rejection, or making things worse. Yet carrying unspoken burdens silently damages our relationships and mental health over time. Each time you push through that discomfort to express what needs to be said, you strengthen your emotional muscles and prove to yourself that you can survive the temporary awkwardness of authenticity.

Getting everything out doesn’t necessarily mean dramatic confrontations or public declarations. Sometimes healing communication is quiet and private—writing unsent letters, speaking with a therapist, or having calm, honest conversations with those involved. The key is finding appropriate outlets where your truth can exist outside the confines of your mind. When thoughts and emotions remain trapped internally, they have nowhere to go but deeper within, creating tension in your body and spirit. Externalized feelings can be examined, challenged, accepted, and ultimately released.

Healing through communication isn’t just about unburdening yourself; it’s about creating new possibilities for connection and understanding. When you express what you’ve been carrying, you often discover that others have similar experiences or that they had no idea how their actions affected you. These moments of recognition and empathy form bridges between people. Even when relationships can’t be salvaged, communicating your experience provides closure and allows you to move forward with valuable lessons rather than lingering resentment. Remember that healing isn’t found in perfect words but in the courage to speak at all.

Sometimes, We Don’t See Our Own Flaws Until We Meet…

February 20, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Sometimes, we don’t see our own flaws until we meet someone else who acts the same way.” – Dr. K. L. Register

Mirror Images: Recognizing Our Own Flaws Through Others

It’s a strange quirk of human nature that we often remain blind to our own shortcomings until we encounter them in someone else. We might get frustrated with a friend who constantly interrupts conversations, only to realize with a jolt that we do the exact same thing. This mirror effect can be uncomfortable, but it offers one of life’s most valuable growth opportunities if we’re brave enough to look closely.

When someone irritates you with behaviors that feel eerily familiar, pay attention to that emotional trigger. That sharp reaction isn’t random – it’s often your subconscious recognizing something you don’t want to admit about yourself. Maybe you criticize a coworker for taking credit for team efforts, but haven’t noticed how often you highlight your own contributions while downplaying others’. These moments of recognition can be painful, but they’re also precious gifts that show us exactly where we need to grow.

The beauty of these mirror moments is that they give us a chance to develop compassion in two directions simultaneously. As we recognize our shared flaws with others, we can extend understanding to them, knowing firsthand how challenging these patterns can be to break. At the same time, we can finally offer ourselves the kindness and patience we need to address these behaviors in our own lives, rather than continuing in denial or harsh self-judgment.

Next time someone’s actions push your buttons, try asking yourself: “What am I seeing that feels so familiar?” Instead of directing frustration outward, use it as an opportunity for self-reflection. Our relationships with others can serve as powerful windows into our blind spots, revealing exactly what we need to work on. By embracing these uncomfortable insights rather than avoiding them, we transform everyday irritations into stepping stones toward becoming more self-aware, understanding people.

Please Make Yourself a Priority. at the End of the Day

February 19, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Please make yourself a priority. At the end of the day, you’re your longest commitment.” – Unknown

Make Yourself a Priority: Your Longest Commitment

The wisdom in “Please make yourself a priority. At the end of the day, you’re your longest commitment” speaks to a fundamental truth we often overlook. From the moment you’re born until your last breath, you’re in a relationship with yourself. This relationship outlasts jobs, romantic partners, friendships, and many other connections we form throughout life. Yet how many of us treat this relationship with the care it deserves? Making yourself a priority isn’t selfish—it’s recognizing the value of your most enduring commitment.

Think about how you treat your most valued possessions or relationships. You maintain them, invest in them, and protect them from harm. Your relationship with yourself deserves the same attention. When you neglect self-care, push aside your needs, or constantly put others first, you’re essentially breaking promises to your most loyal companion: yourself. This doesn’t mean ignoring responsibilities or abandoning others, but rather ensuring that your own cup is full enough that you can genuinely show up for the people and causes you care about.

The quality of your life largely depends on how you treat yourself during your private moments. Are you kind to yourself when you make mistakes? Do you honor your needs for rest, proper nutrition, and activities that bring you joy? Or do you constantly push yourself to exhaustion, speak harshly to yourself, and delay your own happiness for some future date that never seems to arrive? Remember that how you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you. When you prioritize your wellbeing, you teach others that your needs matter too.

Making yourself a priority means recognizing that you’ll be living with yourself long after other people and situations have come and gone. The habits, thoughts, and self-talk you cultivate today will be your companions decades from now. Invest in developing a healthy relationship with yourself—one based on respect, compassion, and genuine care. When life’s inevitable challenges arise, you’ll have built an unshakable foundation of self-support that will carry you through the hardest times. After all, no one else can be there for you in quite the same way you can be there for yourself.

Perhaps the Biggest Mistake I Made in the past Was That I Believed

February 17, 2018 By LLH Leave a Comment

“Perhaps the biggest mistake I made in the past was that I believed love was about finding the right person. In reality, love is about becoming the right person. Don’t look for the person you want to spend your life with. Become the person you want to spend your life with.” – Neil Strauss

Finding Love by Becoming the Person You Want to Be

For years, many of us have chased an illusion—the perfect partner who will complete us and make our lives whole. We create detailed checklists of traits and qualities, searching tirelessly for someone who matches our ideal. But what if we’ve been looking in the wrong direction all along? The profound truth is that love isn’t about discovering that magical person who meets all our criteria. It’s about growing into someone who can truly give and receive love in a meaningful way.

Self-improvement isn’t selfish—it’s actually the foundation of healthy relationships. When you focus on becoming your best self, you naturally draw better connections into your life. Think about it: the qualities you’re seeking in others—patience, kindness, emotional stability, good communication—are exactly what you should be developing within yourself. By working on your own shortcomings and strengthening your positive traits, you create a solid foundation for any relationship. You stop expecting someone else to fill your gaps and instead bring wholeness to the table.

The beautiful paradox is that once you genuinely enjoy your own company, you’re ready for someone else to enjoy it too. This doesn’t mean achieving perfection—it means accepting your flaws while continuously growing. Start asking yourself tough questions: “Am I a good listener?” “Do I communicate my needs clearly?” “Can I handle conflict in healthy ways?” When you work on these areas, you’ll find that dating becomes less about frantically searching and more about thoughtfully connecting with people who appreciate the authentic you.

Remember that becoming “the right person” is a lifelong journey, not a destination. Even in committed relationships, personal growth never stops. The healthiest couples continue evolving individually while supporting each other’s development. So instead of scanning the horizon for your perfect match, turn your gaze inward. Invest in yourself—learn new skills, heal old wounds, practice compassion. As you become more fulfilled and self-aware, you’ll naturally attract relationships that reflect your true worth. The right person doesn’t complete your puzzle; they bring their complete puzzle to join with yours.