The amount of abuse we tolerate in a partner is equal to the amount of abuse we heap on ourselves. If a woman is used to telling herself that she’s ugly, that she fails at everything she tries, and that she’s not capable of performing in the world without someone holding her hand, then she’ll accept–and even feel most comfortable with–a man who reinforces these beliefs.
The first step is for her to learn her identity in Christ; this will show her the significance she has here on Earth!