Be yourself, but be your best self.
You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them. – Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday, I Cried
People may not realize this, but it’s sadness and despair that sometimes allow a person to grow. Being comfortable with where you’re at often doesn’t motivate you to change or improve your situation. However, being in despair forces you to try to get out of it. That’s why despair is a good thing.