Are you worried about what others may think of you?

Being concerned of others’ opinions of you is a form of captivity. A mental prison constructed using false beliefs and painful experiences from the past.

The truly free and enlightened individual doesn’t require or seek approval in order to be be themselves. Instead, they accept themselves wholly and completely with gratitude.

The problem with our society is that we define ourselves by what others think of us. We are forever seeking approval and acceptance in order to determine our status in the social pecking order. This never ending quest leads us further away from the source of our own love–US!

We become addicted to being accepted by an ego driven society. Like a drug, the high wears off and we get back to the drawing board to determine what else we need to obtain or do in order to gain the approval of our peers.

We forget our innate beauty and spiritual wealth to pursue more power, more possessions, etc… Why is the confirmation of another needed in order to feel of value? We must ask ourselves: Am I giving away my power when the approval of another is required? The obvious answer is “yes.”

Crystalizing this enables us to reclaim and reembrace our authentic self.

Decide who you are and who you want to be and recreate yourself according to God’s original blueprint and not someone else’s. Remember, seeking approval from others is like weighing yourself down with anchors of fear/self-doubt. Recognize it and break the habit!

Celebrate who you are, not who others want you to be.

Cheers to you!

Rob

“If you want the best the world has to offer, offer the world your best.” –Neale D. Walsch

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What Matters

What Matters? The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.

From her interactions with her patients, she found that in the final days of their lives they shared five common regrets. 
 
As you read this, think to yourself what could you do differently right now, with your life, so that you live a life of joy, happiness, and meaning, and not experience these regrets?
 
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
 
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
 
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. 
 
Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
 
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
 
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. 
 
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. 
 
All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
 
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
 
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
 
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
 
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. 
 
Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
 
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 
 
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
 
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. 
 
Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. 
 
That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
 
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. 
 
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is 
a choice. 
 
They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
 
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
 
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
 
Article by Bonnie Ware, author of the book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing