Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. – Doe Zantamata
“I’ve learned that things change, people change, and it doesn’t mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren’t meant to be.” -Lisa Brooks
It happens as we get older and grow up and change. Friendships that we thought would be in our lives forever turn out to have an expiration date. Your lives are on two separate tracks and it seems that there’s no going back. And as much as you love her and cherish the memories you’ve shared together, you know in your heart that the friendship has run its course.
Maybe it’s that your friend is overwhelmingly emotionally needy and draining you of your time and energy. Or maybe she lied to you, betrayed you, or inflicted some other pain upon you. Or maybe your friend is incredibly negative, cynical, and pessimistic and works overtime to rain on your parade because she’s jealous of your sun and tired of her shade. Or maybe she doesn’t make the effort and you are tired of being the one to always reach out. Whatever the case may be – if a friendship brings out the WORST in you rather than the BEST in you, it’s not a friendship that belongs in your life.
You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them…but still move on without them. The friendship had significance, and meaning, and importance…for a season. And that season has passed. Just like you wouldn’t wear a bikini in the winter or snow boots in the summer…it makes no sense to try to extend a friendship that was only meant to be a season into a lifetime…
Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up and with whom, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always. Be you, and be okay with it. – Unknown